The Art of Listening

141FBB73-1040-414C-B6F7-6053E999D0CBOur kids are being taught now in amazing schools and have constant access to information on the internet. They read countless books, research, share ideas online, and are pushed harder by parents and educators than we ever were. However, they are not any smarter than us. Why not? I should have already known why, I taught high school several years for Christ’s sake. I guess I could never put my finger on it until now. As my son and I debated over politics the other day, I finally figured it out. Kids act like they listen to you but in all reality, they truly lack the ability to actually listen.

Things moved slower when the Baby Boomers and their kids were growing up, even though it didn’t seem like that to us. However, compared to kids today, we had plenty of time to take in information and process it. Why is it important to process it? It’s not just about being a sponge. It’s about that higher level of intelligence. You know the poster you see sometimes in psychologist’s and educator’s offices covering Bloom’s Taxonomy of Learning? A teacher’s goal is to strive to create lessons to hit all six of those domains listed, especially the very top domain, Creating. Now, I’m not going to bore you with each category and all kinds of other education jargon. What I will tell you is that if you are a parent, your kids are probably struggling with one of the foundation pieces, Analyzing.

We all know that to analyze information, we have to separate it into parts and organize it first. It takes a little time. Kids aren’t doing that. They are in a rush and don’t want to take the time. But why? What has them so busy? Not many of them work on farms anymore. Why are they too busy to take in what they hear and correctly analyze it? The answer lies in the old adage, everything in moderation. Our kids are being bombarded with so many issues now that they jump from one thing to another without fully understanding it. Also, think about the kids that are so sensitive that they take in bits and pieces of social/environmental issues and freak out! They shut down before you, as their parent, can explain that the information or data they came across online or wherever wasn’t taking into account other theories, statitics, etc… Then if or when you finally get your thoughts in, your child moves on to another problem without fully analyzing what you told them. Some kids are left with anxiety over a bunch of bull, and they’re going out into the world already emotionally crippled.

What’s the solution? The solution is to know there is a problem and address it. The next time you are talking to your child, remind them that it is time for them to stop talking and to listen to you, the adult. You, the one that cares about them. You, the one that has years of wisdom on them and even most of the people your child comes in contact with online. If they still don’t follow what you’re saying, put it in simpler terms- To listen is to pay attention with not just your ears, but your mind and heart. When they finally learn to stop long enough to really listen to other people, not just with people they agree with either, they will grow smarter. In the end, it will also teach them how to show respect to the person talking. People love to share knowledge if they feel like they are really being listened to.

With all that being said, I am proud of my son for gathering information and debating his opinions. Who wouldn’t be? But I want more for my kids. I want them to always stay open-minded and in order to that, they must know how to properly listen.



The 12th Letter Movie


We are excited to have the chance to bring this fictional, yet faith based novel to life as a movie that will highlight a disabled veteran as he struggles to find peace and a new purpose in life on the shores of Galveston, TX. In doing this movie, we hope to help raise awareness of our real-life veterans that commit suicide at a rate of 22 per day. 

Currently, the screenplay and the film short that we are working on has been requested for review by Angel Studios of PureFlix (studio that brought you The Chosen). However, in order to finish the production of the film short, that will shoot in Pittsburgh, PA, and get it into the hands of the right people that will do the most good with it, we are in need of any contribution you can give.

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Movie: “The 12th Letter”!!!

Disabled veteran, Trey Reynolds, begins an unusual pen pal friendship with a nun not of his time. This odd relationship is exactly what he needs to reacclimate into his life back home and find hope in something bigger than himself to help guide him back to his faith. He finds that peace and guidance in Sister Margaret by doing what seems to help most people of trauma, writing it all down for her. However, Sister Margaret’s fate has been set and their time together is running out. 

Sister Margaret is fictional, as well, but her character is loosely based on one of the nuns whose tragic and true story has inspired many people around the world. In September of 1900, our nation’s worst natural disaster came in the form of a hurricane that flooded all of Galveston, Texas taking with it the 10 nuns and 90 orphans of St. Mary’s Orphanage.

This movie needs to be produced well, so it can spread to the masses not only what the nuns did for the orphans in an attempt to save them, but also so it can reveal the sacrifices that our military personnel and their families make for our country every day.

Hope and love are the themes of this story as we won’t give up until we heal our vets and inspire people to help others every chance they get.

As the author wrote in the book, “We are all called for something special in our lives, a way to help others when our moment arrives. However, not all have the courage to follow His plan. The nuns of St. Mary’s Orphanage did by doing all they knew to do to save the children when that devastating hurricane hit. Also, the protectors of our freedoms have that same courage as they risk their lives after deploying and leaving their own families for the sole purpose of helping us.”

Here is your chance to help a movie intent on honoring our fallen and help our veterans that struggle when they come home.

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Filming begins in June 2022