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The Art of Listening

141FBB73-1040-414C-B6F7-6053E999D0CBOur kids are being taught now in amazing schools and have constant access to information on the internet. They read countless books, research, share ideas online, and are pushed harder by parents and educators than we ever were. However, they are not any smarter than us. Why not? I should have already known why, I taught high school several years for Christ’s sake. I guess I could never put my finger on it until now. As my son and I debated over politics the other day, I finally figured it out. Kids act like they listen to you but in all reality, they truly lack the ability to actually listen.

Things moved slower when the Baby Boomers and their kids were growing up, even though it didn’t seem like that to us. However, compared to kids today, we had plenty of time to take in information and process it. Why is it important to process it? It’s not just about being a sponge. It’s about that higher level of intelligence. You know the poster you see sometimes in psychologist’s and educator’s offices covering Bloom’s Taxonomy of Learning? A teacher’s goal is to strive to create lessons to hit all six of those domains listed, especially the very top domain, Creating. Now, I’m not going to bore you with each category and all kinds of other education jargon. What I will tell you is that if you are a parent, your kids are probably struggling with one of the foundation pieces, Analyzing.

We all know that to analyze information, we have to separate it into parts and organize it first. It takes a little time. Kids aren’t doing that. They are in a rush and don’t want to take the time. But why? What has them so busy? Not many of them work on farms anymore. Why are they too busy to take in what they hear and correctly analyze it? The answer lies in the old adage, everything in moderation. Our kids are being bombarded with so many issues now that they jump from one thing to another without fully understanding it. Also, think about the kids that are so sensitive that they take in bits and pieces of social/environmental issues and freak out! They shut down before you, as their parent, can explain that the information or data they came across online or wherever wasn’t taking into account other theories, statitics, etc… Then if or when you finally get your thoughts in, your child moves on to another problem without fully analyzing what you told them. Some kids are left with anxiety over a bunch of bull, and they’re going out into the world already emotionally crippled.

What’s the solution? The solution is to know there is a problem and address it. The next time you are talking to your child, remind them that it is time for them to stop talking and to listen to you, the adult. You, the one that cares about them. You, the one that has years of wisdom on them and even most of the people your child comes in contact with online. If they still don’t follow what you’re saying, put it in simpler terms- To listen is to pay attention with not just your ears, but your mind and heart. When they finally learn to stop long enough to really listen to other people, not just with people they agree with either, they will grow smarter. In the end, it will also teach them how to show respect to the person talking. People love to share knowledge if they feel like they are really being listened to.

With all that being said, I am proud of my son for gathering information and debating his opinions. Who wouldn’t be? But I want more for my kids. I want them to always stay open-minded and in order to that, they must know how to properly listen.

 

 

Charlotte Reade Mysteries by Laura Cayouette

Actress Charlotte Reade heads to her family home in New Orleans for a family funeral. She embarks on a search through her family history that reveals family secrets so twisted that I couldn’t put the book down.

Laura’s writing is incredible in the way she describes New Orleans. I’ve been there many times. My own parents honeymooned there years ago. Reading Laura’s words made me feel like I was back there right now. The foods, the culture, the creative energy of that city is enigmatic and Laura explains it beautifully.

The descriptions and personalities of her family made me swoon for that Cajun atmosphere even more. I loved the part in the beginning of the book where Charlotte took her mother’s advice “When you have a pimple, show off your cleavage” (worded something like that) and wore a controversial dress on the red carpet in order to distract from the bad reviews that were coming in for the movie she starred in. That is quintessential Cajun advice.

The story unfolded at a nice pace for this genre. Although I’m used to more adventure/fast-paced action genres, I still enjoyed it. I’ve already downloaded book 2 and can’t wait to see where Laura takes us.

Book Review for Fairy Tale Lies by DK Marie!

Fairy Tale Lies centers around a young woman and a guy trying to build his business after putting it on hold for his family. The two meet and like each other immediately, but they don’t know why. They are from two different worlds. However, sparks fly and they become intimate only to not see each other again until his small business lands him in her office with her servicing his account. As they come to terms with their previous short fling, they realize that what started only minutes after they first met is not something they can deny any longer.

I felt for both characters. I could see their struggle. It had real world problems with a touch of heat that had me wishing the book wouldn’t end. If you like sweet romances with some spicy elements, this is your book!

DK’s writing is beautiful and there is heart in everything she writes. I highly recommend following her in this romance series.

I gave this book 5 stars out of 5!!!

ARION RISING

9EDF48EA-647C-499C-9212-2B51C5F08763Téa, a seventeen-year-old girl, has dodged abusive foster homes and surviving harsh street life to achieve her STEM dreams and later become the first Latino woman astronaut to spacewalk. Until… she discovers an anomalous Native American Indian artifact that is actually a powerful seed not of this world. It chooses Téa, an unlikely hero, and endows her with super human abilities to battle a savage alien race that is already here.

The next day, a new and very mysterious guy, Ben, starts following her. Téa learns that he is an alien from Aepi, a distant planet of peaceful and ocean dwelling aliens that have come here to seek refuge. Now, they have to work together because that seed was originally his birthright. But they can’t stand each other! Well that’s okay since Aepi legend warns against their union anyway.

As Téa starts to buy into the whole fairy godmother turn of events, a surprise kiss from Ben forces her to make a choice: give up her new life or give up her first love. And when this interplanetary war comes crashing down upon them, Téa is faced with an even harder choice: save human kind or be the one to end it when she finds out who she really is.